One of the most often misunderstood and misquoted sayings is “blood is thicker than water”. The full version of the saying is “the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb,” and means that the people you have chosen to be a part of your life have more meaning and are owed more loyalty than those to whom you are genetically related to.
Another phrase for this concept is “found family”.
It’s a common trope in pop culture and media; friends often become the ones who stand by the heroes in the end and who help them along the way (Samwise, anyone?). One of the best things about this particular trope is that it’s one that can easily translate to reality. Thanks to social media, it’s easier in this day and age to find the people you connect with outside of your family than ever before, and it’s easy to grow those friendships and develop them over a long period of time.
Speaking for myself, I only have one family member who is physically close to me, which means that I have to look beyond my tiny square foot of land to find others I connect with, and I have. I have a few friends I’ve known for more than twenty years, but a lot of my strong personal connections are to those whom I’ve known for less than five; together, we have fought internet trolls, worked to smash the patriarchy, and simply bond over a shared enjoyment of Marvel characters and Star Wars movies.
This time of year is one of those periods when I think about them more and more; as the world prepares for its winter season and holidays and everyone shares what they are or aren’t doing to mark the occasion, one of my favorite things to do is to reconnect with my own found family, no matter where they live. This may mean sending a card or text, or just sharing articles or products with them, but whatever we do I always know that they’ll be there for me, and they know the reverse is true. As we approach the holidays, I ask you, the reader, to think about those people in your own life who you may consider to be your found family. Pick up the phone and send them a text, or send them an email. If you’re close enough and it’s safe enough (in the midst of a pandemic) to meet in person, I strongly encourage you to do that as well.
Just stop, reflect, and spend some time with those you love.
From the Mocha Memoirs Press family to yours, Happy Holidays and stay safe. We wish you all happiness through the end of this year, and into the next.